Silence and solitude are lost cultural phenomenons, spaces which needs to been explored and used. I am fascinated by silence and solitude. Fascinated by that what happens to the human spirit, its identity and personality, when the talking stops and ventures out into emptiness.
Some people are frightened of those who desire and aspire to be alone. For them solitude can be threatening and they recognize it as not social. They feel that someone who wants to be in solitude is somebody who does not take social responsibilities. Someone who does not conform to their standards. And so being unacceptable in social forms.
“If everyone is thinking alike, then somebody isn’t thinking.” ― George S. Patton Jr.
But the truth is different. Someone who deliberately explores his live, who explores the world and the connection with it, in solitude, is someone who learns to be self dependent and will develop a strong self esteem. There is no number of friends, contacts or connections that can make you into a stronger independent person. Being in solitude will deeper consciousness of oneself and it will give an increased sense of freedom. Which will lead to an independent-minded, self thinking, reflective person. These qualities will make someone a valuable team player. Someone who can take social responsibilities, without being pressured by a herd mentality. Someone who feels free and independent of principle, or conscience. Someone who is not afraid to think different and use creativity to solve lifes issues. A person who is free from social peer pressure to conform and being able to think and act for himself, rather than be under the influence of group-think. This in contrary to those who conform. Those who need to consume more and more, and whose lives are influenced by group thinking and standardized.
“Sheep only need a single flock, but people need two: one to belong to and make them feel comfortable, and another to blame all of society’s problems on.” ― James Rozoff
I am part of society, have a family life and run a business, still I take my time to go away from all this. I spend regularly a few hours or a longer period in solitude. It helps to deal with social pressure, it helps to reorder the mind and it cleans the soul. I practice my solitude in running, especially on longer runs. Then I am several hours on my own and far away from everything. There, being mindful, being one with motion and breathing, there I find these powerful moments of solitude and stillness.
Try it, and feel what I mean. It can change your life.